Being single is a hard slog. All that swiping left and right, all those mind-numbingly boring dates and worst of all, the great dates where you feel the ‘spark’ and yet for some reason the other person doesn’t. And then you get ghosted. But now, breadcrumbing has taken hold too, which might finally be enough to make us take a vow of celibacy.
So what exactly is this new attack on dating?
According to Urban Dictionary breadcrumbing is: “The act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (ie “breadcrumbs”) to members of the opposite sex in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort.” In other words, it’s when people keep showing interest but they never seem to actually follow it through with a date. You’re a back up plan of sorts, just in case they get bored later. Nice.
If you’ve got someone on Tinder, Facebook or WhatsApp who pops rarely to see how you are, while you may have assumed they’re a nice person, it is now quite apparent they are far from it. By liking your statuses every now and then, occasionally commenting how nice you look in your photos and infrequently checking in to see how you are, they’re actually keeping you on the back-burner. It gives you teeny-tiny hope that one day they might just have an epiphany and realise you are the women for them. And that girls just simply isn’t okay.
It might all sound a bit ridiculous we grant you, but breadcrumbing is a thing and it’s time you took action. Next time your ‘caring’ Tinder mate pops up to say hello, it’s time you left those crumbs well alone and hit the delete button once and for all.