It’s the question we hear over and over again when discussing sexual assault and rape victims: ‘what was she wearing?’ As if an item of clothing is to blame for someone being molested, not the person actually doing the molesting. *roll eyes*
Despite most of us understanding the completely backwards and down-right offensive nature of this question, many people still ask it and, in turn, lay the blame at the door of the victim rather than the offender.
Today, this very argument is blowing up on Twitter, after one user tweeted a strong message of complete and utter victim blaming in response to a tweet about punishment for rapists.
I’ve never been raped.Know why?Because I don’t dress like a prostitute or act overly sexual like most young women.Take some responsibility!
— Ilyena Sunhair (@TheWhiteTower_) October 22, 2017
The user claimed they’ve never been raped because they don’t “dress like a prostitute or act overly sexual”, but the rest of Twitter are having absolutely none of it. Bravely sharing their own raw and traumatic stories, people from across the world have proved the troll wrong in just 140 characters.
Congrats on being in the right place at the right time all the time. I was wearing a t-shirt & long pants & asleep on the couch. Nice try.
— Amanda (@AJsPlaceOnline) October 22, 2017
i was sexually assaulted when i was wearing a long coat that went down to my knees and my school uniform, clothes arent the problem here
— hania (@mishasperalta) October 22, 2017
My aunt was raped at work wearing long pants and her work shirt didn’t know that was considered sexual clothing
— help? (@igaunica) October 23, 2017
I was in a t-shirt and overalls when I was raped. I was injured and at home with my then boyfriend. He raped me. And it was NOT my fault.
— The Pumpkin Queen (@KindaFunni) October 23, 2017
Me at 16 waking up to a male “friend” on top of me who was asleep on the couch when I went to bed in my sweats was definitely my fault.
— Rach (@babyrachelk) October 23, 2017
I was wearing a blazer, buttoned up shirt and a long skirt that went to my ankles. Explain how that is overly sexual/like a prostitute?
— ☁️ia (@ClawdiaFox) October 23, 2017
It’s never easy for victims to speak publicly about their experiences, but by coming forward and sharing such details, women are continuing to prove the warped rhetoric around rape cases very, very wrong. And as for who is actually to blame, one tweeter has shared something we should all remember:
I’m also confused by how men raping isn’t considered “overly sexual” behaviour, but whatever women do beforehand is. Stop hating women.
— Pumpkin Roll Phan 🎃 (@SushiRollPhan) October 22, 2017