2017 has been a year of weird, wonderful and down-right awful dating trends — we’ve had ghosting, breadcrumbing and even Draking, but now we’ve got another innocent-sounding label to add to the list: submarining.
It’s something most of us will have experienced throughout our dating lives, whether it’s someone you’ve just started seeing or a fling from our past. So, how do you know if you’re being submarined? It all starts with ghosting, when someone you’re seeing suddenly stops replying to your messages and seemingly disappears all together.
Then, said person reappears out of the blue like nothing’s ever happened — just like a submarine popping its head up out of the water after spending weeks hidden from view in the depths of the ocean. And it’s happening to a lot of people already.
just learned that “submarining* is a thing and i realize i have both done it and had it done to me. whoops ♀
— Bαrbie ♀ (@franki_laspina) October 10, 2017
Last week I talked about the new dating woe #submarining, the new ghosting. No clue what that was til now. I was just actually submarined!
— Jv Joe B-Radio (@JvJoeb985) October 6, 2017
Submarining is such a thing and it has happened with literally every guy I’ve talked to like pls stay away from me
— Paige Fehland (@PaigeBFailin) 23 October 2017
It’s all getting very confusing.
Just had to explain ghosting, submarining, zombie-ing and haunting to my 68 year old parents and 32 year old sister. I quit.
— Kat Andrusco (@katandrusco) October 5, 2017
So if someone ‘ghosts’ you, but comes back out of no where, they’re calling it submarining?
So.. what? You’re getting torpedo’d?
— Ento (@frisky_ferret) 20 October 2017
Who knows, maybe torpedoing is next?
So now we have a name for this disappearing/reappearing act, what should you do if it happens to you? Our advice: ask them where they’ve been and why they’re now walking back into your life unannounced. Getting to the bottom of things might help you work out whether they’re worth more late night WhatsApp sessions or not.