There are so many pieces of advice my mum gave me when I was younger that I wished I’d listened to sooner.
“Less is more” could have saved me from walking around secondary school with a face the colour of mud and a tidal wave of orange on my shirt collar.
“This really doesn’t matter at your age” is a particularly infuriating one when you’re in the throes of high school heartbreak. How dare she dismiss my pain so flippantly? And yet two months later, I was racking up mammoth phone bills calling a new boy for hours on the house phone at night while everyone was asleep.
Perhaps the one that sticks out for me the most is what my mum says to me every time something really goes wrong. Moments of grief, anxiety, panic and loss. “Everything passes,” she tells me. And to this day I hold this phrase in my head when the chips are down and I can’t see an end to it. She is, of course, right. The world continues to turn, feelings change like the tide, and time moves ever forward.
So in honour my wise mother, and all the great advice your mothers have given you, we thought we’d round up some of the best knowledge stars have given or received from their mothers too. Enjoy.
“My mom always said, ‘You should judge your relationship not by how a guy makes you feel when you’re with him, but by how he makes you feel when you’re not with him.’”
“You can always forgive yourself or apologize for things you do, but you can’t ever work through things you wish you’d done and you didn’t.”
“Don’t confuse having a career with having a life.”
“The older you get, the more comfortable you become with yourself, and you accept what you have physically.”
“Make eye contact, stop to really look someone in the eye. My grandmother taught me that.”
“You don’t want to be with a boy who’s too stupid to appreciate a smart young woman.”
“As you navigate through the rest of your life, be open to collaboration. Other people and other people’s ideas are often better than your own. Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.”
“If you retain nothing else, always remember the most important rule of beauty, which is: who cares?”
“If everything was perfect, you would never learn and you would never grow.”
“We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”